A dry day at LBHQ—by choice

Every week your ASTROLIQUOR profile (What the stars say you should drink!) provides facetious, trying-to-be-funny recommendations on saucing up your social life with that magical elixir, alcohol.

A while ago I added the tags “poor judgment,” “specious advice,” “irresponsible behavior,” and “tasteless” to the weekly horoscope. Not that this was necessary—I know my readers are smart. They wouldn’t really take advice from a bear whose furry head contains only two brain cells, both of which are semi-permanently fried.

But every once in a while I get a reminder that there are people out there who do behave irresponsibly around alcohol. They surround themselves with like-minded friends who drink to oblivion with the express purpose of surrendering any responsibility or intentional behavior. These people sometimes do bad shit, and sometimes bad shit happens to them.

I was very upset and disturbed to hear that a fellow blogger’s daughter, upon attending her first Burning Man event, was dosed with hallucinogens, raped, and dumped on a side street.

She’d accepted a glass of “water” at a camp called “Want It,” only to wake up later in the med tent with an IV in her arm and a patchy recollection of the attack.

Although she can identify her attacker, he can’t be charged. There are no rape kits and no forensic nurses out on the Playa.

My heart goes out Miss R and her daughter. Her daughter did nothing wrong. And even if her daughter had overindulged, as the Burning Man rangers initially suspected, she still should have remained safe from sexual predators. That was her right.

I could post dozens of messages warning women (and men for that matter) not to drink excessively, not to leave a drink unattended at the bar, and not to leave a bar with someone under the influence. Messages like this:

 

No one should have to be told this stuff.

At best such messages recognize the pragmatic reality that, despite the best ideals upheld by majority non-predators, women (and men) still cannot allow themselves the vulnerability attendant with inebriation. Not if they wish to feel safe.

At worst, these messages reinforce the notion that if you compromise your judgment with a few drinks, whatever happens is your fault. And as a society we haven’t done a good enough job getting across that it’s not.

Whoever these fucked-up rapists (plural, because at least three women were raped at Burning Man that night)…whoever these fucked-up bastards are, they know how wrong their actions were, and I hope their communities will identify them and report them.

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7 responses to “A dry day at LBHQ—by choice”

  1. Rachael Black says :

    Bless you LB. Everyone should heed your warning. As you said, one never knows what kind of sick f**k may be among us. My daughter is smart enough to have NEVER accepted a drink or glass of water from anyone she didn’t know while living in San Francisco the last year.
    Sadly, this was a freak occurrence in what is supposed to be a venue of safety. Our own camp served water, and alcohol, as do most on the Esplanade (the major thoroughfare at Burning Man).
    Her guard was down, but this NEVER excuses the rapists and predators from attacking women or men.

    From my heart I appreciate this posting my friend. Be well
    xo

  2. transparentguy says :

    Thank you for posting this.

  3. beerbecue says :

    Good post, LB. That’s fucked up. My heart goes out to Miss R and her daughter. Nobody should have to deal with that, no matter where they go or what they do. I don’t know what I would do if it was my daughter. I would probably snap and go all Michael Douglas Falling Down on the guy, which isn’t right…but I probably wouldn’t care at that point.

    • Rachael Black says :

      beerbecue: if I knew where this pedophile, potential murderer (my daughter also had strangulation marks on her neck) rapist lived I WOULD go all Michael Douglas on him. Still working with the BM Org, police and good friends. Thank you for your words.
      LB, as always, cannot thank you enough.
      BTW if this helps? The bastard is a DJ and looks like (swear to god) Moby.
      My daughter actually made a joke about the episode of How I met Your Mother and the Lunch with Moby episode.
      In other words, if you see a guy looking like Moby, with buish/gray eyes who has been to Burning Man? Shoot him. I shall take full responsibility,

      The other shoe has not fallen for her, but it will, and soon. Am so glad she is strong as I raised her. Cannot stop crying though.

      Peace and health to you and yours beerbecue.
      Love you LB.

    • liquorstorebear says :

      Me too. It’s so horrifying to imagine.

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