How to keep those New Year’s resolutions—even if you’re an alcoholic
So how are we doing on our New Year’s resolutions, my fellow inebriates?
Is it even particularly good for us to make New Year’s resolutions?
Psychologists say no, it isn’t. Fully three-quarters of the resolved fail in their pursuits, ending up more dispirited than before. Even simple resolutions—such as going to Walmart without exposing a private orifice—elude some people year after year.
The problem with resolutions is that by definition they focus on negative behaviors. Even when they’re couched in positive language, they tend to have an obvious dark side that starts beckoning after a few days or hours of the new year. Focusing on quitting drinking, as an obvious example, leads to obsessive thinking about alcohol. It’s true!
So how do people succeed at keeping resolutions?
- They develop their own plans rather than heeding specious advice from self-help books and motivational gurus.
- They make their resolutions long before the ball begins its New Year’s descent.
- Their resolutions are realistic and well-considered, not whimsical.
- Their resolutions are specific, unlike my friend Scarybear’s (“get more snacks in 2012”).
- They make one resolution at a time.
- They make their resolutions official by telling people about them, or at least journaling them.
- They break the mountain up into small hills, so the journey isn’t overwhelming, and they get satisfaction in periodic increments.
- They forgive themselves when they lapse. They understand it’s part of the process.
- When they do slip, they don’t let all-or-nothing thinking negate the resolution entirely. They just continue.
- They reward themselves for incremental successes.
But how do we apply all this shit now that it’s already 2012? Isn’t it too late to make resolutions?
Well, no…there’s nothing magical about New Year at all. In fact, New Year is one of the worst times to resolve to do anything. It’s winter, there’s food and drink everywhere, people are visiting, the mood is celebratory, the gym is crowded, and if you’re a bear you should really be hibernating.
Why not resolve to wait for the optimal time to do something? Then do it.
For me, that thing is discovering how to open wine bottles with my paws. Now that I know the year isn’t lost, I can still make it happen.